Welcome back to another Thursday blog post. Over the course of my journey these past few months I’ve learned so much. One of the things that have definitely made a difference was goal setting and to do lists.
I always have a to-do list somewhere that is there for me to look at and cross things off. Often times they are shoulds. Things I feel like I ‘should’ be doing. I break them down to the day even. A concrete list of things I need to accomplish in a day. Again this is where my perfectionism comes in as well. My lists for the day aren’t achievable. We only have so many hours in a day and even if I do nothing else I can’t accomplish these extreme lists I have set for myself.
So I went on a journey to find better ways to organize my time. There had to be a method that would work better for me. I’ve tried plenty of them. Artistic BuJo journals, non-artistic BuJo journals, not keeping a list, keeping a massive list for the month. Each time it always ended the same. I didn’t accomplish it. Part because it was never meant to be achievable, though my brain convinced me it was.
I grew so frustrated with planning and to do lists that I quit using them and accomplishing things. So many days I spent sitting in front of a television upset with not achieving the things that I set out for myself and so ashamed that all I did was sit in front of the television. It was vicious and so was I with myself. There had to be a better way.
When I couldn’t take any more of my self-loathing and pity I stepped up and started listening to motivational videos during the mornings. I’ll admit for awhile it was an all-day thing. Not only was I getting pumped up, but I was taking bits of those videos and putting myself back together. There were methods and strategies in them that I started using in my own life. I learned so much that I finally got to a point where I felt ready to take on the world once more. The problem was, I still had no way of planning out my days.
That is when I heard one of Tony Robbins videos that changed that for me. I would link the video but honestly, it was so long ago and I’ve listened to so many of them, that I wouldn’t be able to find the exact one I was listening to when I heard it. He talked about how you can make all these goals for yourself but if you don’t have a why you want to accomplish these, and a strong enough one to attach a feeling to it, then you are less likely to accomplish it.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. I had the goals and to do lists, but never the why. That why is so important on any level or in anything you do. You not only need a clear goal in mind, but a strong why for that goal as well. That why is going to be what pushes you through when willpower goes away and when the world starts to test your resolve – and it WILL test your resolve.
Also, if doing daily tasks doesn’t work for you and you’re like me and bog yourself down with massive tasks, try switching to a weekly method. This is what I use now. I sit down and write up what I want to accomplish in a week, but I use the same size of tasks I was trying to accomplish in a day. That way I can take steps toward it all week long. It made it all less overwhelming. Once I had that down I applied the why and the feelings that went with it.
I wanted a clean house. Well, that was great and all, but why? I wanted a clean house for the health of my family. Because messes make me nervous. And so on and so forth. I applied the feelings that went with it all to the task and no longer was cleaning house such a burden, but rather something I loved to do because it meant something to me. To me, that makes goals and to do lists so much easier to get done.
I hope this technique might help someone else out there. Until next time, remember to L.O.L. (Live it, Own it, Love it) or it isn’t worth doing.