2018 · May

Play the Long Term Game

Hello, Readers!

Society as a whole has become all about the quick gain. A lot of people find themselves giving up and quitting things because they become difficult because to achieve the things they want it will take longer than they anticipated in the beginning.

I see it every day in my life. Not only in my career but in my personal life as well. I’ve written a few novels and none of them have been the raging successes that I naively expected in the beginning. I was going to be that break out hit. You know the type. The one that the first novel out they are a huge success.

Oh, how wrong I was and honestly, I’m glad I was. I don’t think that type of success actually exists. I’m sure the media and every other source may try to teach you it does, but that isn’t accurate. Anyone that has tried to do anything worthwhile in their life has dedicated time, resources, and knowledge behind the scenes to get exactly where they are.

So, why now, as we are all trying to focus on more goals in our lives, as we search to accomplish things are we still trying to convince ourselves that things happen instantly?

I’ve done this to myself over and over. I come up with an idea for a novel and it takes time. A good deal of time to write a really great novel, and yet I expect it to happen a lot faster than it does so I get disappointed in myself. Instead, I should celebrate the fact that I have an idea I even want to turn into something and then put all my focus on that. Not the amount of time it takes me to accomplish it.

This has also applied to my health journey. I have been overweight for the better part of my life. I’ve tried every fad diet out there and I can manage it for a short period of time, and I admit to some of them showing real results. I’d lose the weight, significant amounts of the weight, but because the diet isn’t long-term sustainable for me the moment I go off the diet I put all that weight back on and then some. It’s the every time roller coaster and I know that.

Recently I began a workout method mixed with portion control and healthier eating. I avoid processed foods and keep my sugar to a low. Other than that, I do nothing that I can’t sustain over a long period. In a month, my weight has not changed. When I first saw that I wanted to cry. If I was doing all of these things to get healthier, why was nothing changing? I nearly gave up right then, but our scale monitors a lot of other aspects. What I had to look at was my body fat percentage was down by 10% in that month. My muscle weight went from 103 to 120. I have also lost inches. My energy levels are massively higher and I can chase after my grandkids to play and I don’t get out of breath.

So while the quick weight loss isn’t there, the long-term gain is. This I can maintain for the rest of my life to have a stronger and healthier body. That is the point when I realize that I have been living my life expecting instant gratification.

I released a novel and expected everyone to come flocking. It didn’t happen, I wanted to quit. I’ve been doing all these healthy changes in my life. I didn’t lose the weight I thought I should, I thought about quitting.

As a society, we have got to stop playing the instant game and be okay with the fact that some things take time. It is worth it to play the long game.

Until next time, remember to L.O.L. (Live it, Own it, Love it) or it isn’t worth doing.

4 thoughts on “Play the Long Term Game

  1. I can’t relate to every single thing you just said. I had the same unrealistic expectations of success when I first starting writing. Now, I get down on myself for not publishing a book (or five) every year. With weight it’s the same story. I’ve been overweight my entire adult life. I’ve done a lot of dieting and my weight has gone up and down. I started a low carb diet about 2 months ago and I get frustrated anytime the scale stalls. I just need to remind myself that the journey IS the reward. Any time we write or eat healthy or make any other positive choices, we should be proud of ourselves. A number on the scale or a number of Kindle downloads shouldn’t define our success.

      1. 🙂 Oh yes, it can be so difficult to remember all of that. The scale just stalled for me once more and it took me a bit to recover from that today, but I got up and I did my workout regardless. The hubby man had to remind me of the long game once more. It’s hard to not compare yourself to others or even our own incredibly high expectations, but if we just post notes everywhere that remind us to remember it’s a long game. We’ve got this!

  2. Great post. I sure relate. I too have tried every diet excersises life changing programs, I agree slow and steady wins the race.

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