2018 · October

The Mental Game of it All

Hello, Readers! This blog post took me some time to come up with. In fact, so much so that I thought for sure my Stay Focused app would kick in and lock me clear out of my internet until later today first.

Instead, I came up with it while showering. I was lost in thought about how there are so many things in life that are complicated. That the things that we do often isn’t one sided at all.

What am I talking about, you might ask.

I am currently on a healthy journey. I have gone back to eating more energizing food over the last month. While it has gotten easier at this point in time, there was a time a few weeks ago that I truly struggled and stumbled at times.

Like a lot of people I am doing a keto lifestyle. For those of you that don’t know, that means I don’t consume sugar and extremely limited carbs. My diet mainly consists of protein and a select amount of vegetables. Mostly breakfast is a few eggs, lunch is a salad, and dinner is a 3oz of meat and vegetables. Often times it is zucchini and squash, sometimes another small salad, occasionally broccoli and cauliflower. 

While that being said until this last Monday I was the only one in my house eating that way. That meant meals I cooked couldn’t just be catered to me. So, I often was cooking potatoes or pastas to go with dinner or even starchy vegetables that I couldn’t eat as most of my family are picky eaters. 

The mental capacity it took to sit down to dinner with them and watch them eat some of my favorites while I ate what I could was a struggle. It was a mental struggle when we’d go out to eat and there was bread served on the table or a baked potato came with the meal I chose steamed broccoli instead.

And, it isn’t even just eating that takes just as that mental strength as wells as others. Even in my writing it shares the same thing. 

I have to be able to preserver through all sorts of trials. Fight my own mental battles to keep going when there is no proof that this book will be a seller or enjoyed by readers. It’s such a massive fight to not let excuses get in the way and to keep writing.

I have known many that have crumbled under the pressure of it. So many have tossed in the towel because of not seeing the results after a few years of work. As with most passions it takes a lot more than a few years to learn the trade and to get exceptional at it. 

The amount of grit you have to have to push through procrastination, excuses, self-doubt, impostor syndrome…all of it. I am sure there are so many more things that use so much more than simply doing the thing.

However, let me give you a few things I’ve used to help build that up. I won’t lie and tell you that I am mentally strong or that every day I can put in the focus and push needed. If you’ve followed my blog for any amount of time you know that just isn’t true.

Like most things, it is a journey. Some days are good, some are bad, but you have to keep pushing and practicing.

Here are a few things that I do. Take each day one day at a time. Don’t try to look at the entire project. It can be overwhelming and discouraging. If day by day is even a struggle, take it hour by hour. Break it down until it is easier to accomplish. 

I know if I look at a project whole I get extremely discouraged.

Another one, don’t beat yourself up if you don’t accomplish everything you set out to do. Lord knows, I’m horrible at this part of things. If I don’t hit my goals for the day, week or month, I’m a tyrant to myself. The mental conversation in my head is horrible, so this is a work in progress for me.

Try also to remember not to get ahead of yourself. If you’re struggling to accomplish your tasks for the day, don’t worry about what happens later on down the road. Like I’ve stated in blog posts before I was focusing so much on getting the second book ready to publish that I forgot to enjoy writing it. 

The amount of stress that caused was extreme and activated my mental tyrant, which in turn brought about a cycle of the failed goals and mental beatings each day. That all happened until I’d lost all motivation to even try.

I hope some of these help you out there. As always understand these are methods that have worked for me and may not work for everyone.  Until next time, remember to L.O.L. (Live it, Own it, Love it) or it isn’t worth doing.

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