Have you ever gotten to a point when things just start going wrong and keep going that way? Like an endless spiral of crap.
Or maybe it isn’t so much an endless spiral of crap, but rather one thing that goes wrong and then another that doesn’t go quite like you planned. However, because you are already in a darker mood it makes that one thing seems more like an end of the world thing then it probably is.
This has been me for a few days now. It isn’t that everything has been going wrong, but rather a few things have gone completely wrong, which I won’t lie has set me back a fair amount of money. I think that is the part that angers me the most and while I’ve released novels before, nothing has gone this wrong at this step of the process before.
It has taken me some time to regain my footing and setting my mindset right. Often times, this is where The Hubby Man jumps in and gives me the hypothetical shake. Thank the heavens for him too. I’m one that with the severity of my depression if someone doesn’t do that I’ll wallow for a long time.
He isn’t cruel about it either. He just feeds me inspirational things first. That will work if I’m not in too far. Depending on my response, he moves to the next step which is reminding me of how far I’ve come and that I can do this. Sometimes that doesn’t work either. If it doesn’t, now is when he begins changing my mindset.
He told me I need to quit sitting around in the what if stage of everything. Honestly, I hadn’t even realized I was doing it. I’ve been so afraid of messing up the next book, and the fact that I needed to restart book three because it simply felt wrong and it was like I was grasping at straws to write it.
That began to bring me around. The next part he did was sit down and talk to me about the fact that all I see are the obstacles. I’m so busy focusing on what could go wrong, that I forget to think about all the things that could go right. When he’s had enough of my wallowing, and trust me, there comes a point when even I get sick of it, he says ‘What can go right?’
He will ask it at a time when I’m not expecting it. The reason being, I don’t let my depression and negative self-talk get in the way. I rattle off long lists of things and I find that the further I go the more excited I get. When I’m done, he’s grinning. See, he says, you just need to change your mindset.
He’s not wrong. I needed to change my mindset to get there. It took me another day to process it all, but I’m there.
So, for all of you that need it – What can go right?
Don’t over think it, just rattle off anything from the top of your head.
Until next time, remember to L.O.L. (Live it, Own it, Love it) or it isn’t worth doing.